Showing posts with label parenting. Show all posts
Showing posts with label parenting. Show all posts

Sunday, June 20, 2010

Honoring Dads

Later today it will be daylight and we will celebrate Father's Day 2010.  First I want to wish my husband a Happy Father's Day~love you hub!
So what are you doing to honor your father?  We are heading to church to hear THIS preacher tell it all about the family. We have planned a special meal with him afterward, and a time of rest...Give me a shout out about your plans! ;-))

From the old blog:
It’s Father’s Day 2009, and I want to say that Daddys are a special kind of man.  I know; I’ve got two, ONE whose been married to my Mama for over fifty years and MY husband who is Daddy to our children. 

D~Devoted.  Dads are this to the core.  Oh any "man" can father a child, but devotion is straight from a Daddy’s heart.  A picture tells a tale when you look at one of our wedding photos.  It’s the one of my Father walking me down the aisle. . .just "out the gate" from the back . . . a study of his face tells it all.  He’s NOT a happy man~he is "giving away" his little girl.  Daddys do this sort of thing and FEEL this sort of thing.  They are true and loyal to the core, working day in and day out to provide, protect and preserve their families. Dedication is the first D is Daddy.

A~Active  Daddys involved in their families and homes are touching the pulse of the heart of each family member. Active love, Active faith, Active care and concern are at the core of ALL that he does each moment of every day for his wife and children. Daddyism isn’t passive.  THERE’S TOO MUCH to be done! He’s going, going and gone with each child each step and mile to hear, support, guide, provide, stay alive…yeah, I think this "stay alive" applies to Daddy’s with teenagers~YIKES! But even Daddys with teeny tiny babes in arms are active to nurture and snuggle so that little bundle knows his love and care.  Active is the A is DAddy!

D~Dreaming Yeah, I said DREAMING! Where would our children be without the dreams held for their futures? Daddys thinking and praying long and hard with Mamas are considering the past, present and dreaming of futures for their people (kids), making plans, promises, and persuits.  Where there is no vision the people perish, and where there is no dreaming Daddy, the family is directionsless.  Homeschooling Daddys and Mamas know dreaming well.  It began with the decision to home educate and continues with each passing year as we evaluate and structure to meet goals and needs along the way.  In each area of the life of the family, dreaming is essential for a sound progression into the future.  Children benefit from it, thereby society benefits from it.  Dreaming is the second D in DaDdy!

D~Determined "I don’t want to!" "no" "nope" What Daddy hasn’t faced these words out of the mouth of HIS babes?  AND facing such opposition, his determination to stand in truth against such behavior is essential to the healthy setting of limits for the children in his family.  Oh opposition doesn’t just come from the children either, but this ole world is ringing and clamoring to steal what is rightfully Daddy’s own home and family, so that without solid determination, the wolf at the door might get inside to wreck and ruin the precious occupants entrusted to his care.  Daddys are stalward, strong, steel-like and striking with a stretch here or there to keep the enemy out and the family safe.  Determination is exercised in work and play~all areas. . . What man really LOVES working with the sweat of his brow all THAT much? If we humans could have a life of ease, surely man would take this option rather than labor from dawn til dusk until death comes creeping upon him. . .but determined Daddys stand the test each and every time, tempted and tried~proven and able.  Determined~yes! This is the third D in DadDy!

Y~Yielding to God  Only last because of it’s letter, yielding to God is such a crucial part of being a Daddy.  Hearing the Heavenly Father’s voice in his ear as Daddy lives out his faith before his family.  Does God speak to Daddys? Oh yes, and God’s Word is alive and applicable to everyday life for the family of which Daddys are head.  Daddys must hear and obey God to teach his children proper reverence for God~the Heavenly Father and Creator of the Universe.  Our lives speak so loudly that our children cannont hear our words.  This is very true with Daddys.  So goes the spiritual walk of Daddy~goes the walk of the family.  The Bible has many promises for the man who walks upright before God in his family, but the man with unrepented sins in his heart has the curse of the effects of sin following future generations.  The Bible says to the third and fourth. WOW~that’s somewhere around 150 years to be followed by negative effects.  But a man who walks in the ways of God training his children to follow the Lord, the blessings of a Christian family belong to him.  Daddys must yield to God, and in tern teach the ways of God to their children leading and guiding their homes.  Y is really a first priority for every DaddY!
It’s my prayer that each Daddy have a  restful and happy day today! OK Moms, help those kids honor Dad!
Blessings
SisterTipster

Wednesday, October 28, 2009

Winng the Battles and Losing the WAR


Winning in skirmishes with our children as they age may actually position us to a place of losing the war in the end of the engagement.  As a mom, I can't have a win at all costs attitude with my children who are now of the ages that they are thinking and well able to express their positions to me.  I once held this belief of their absolute obedience with the idea that obedience would be crucial in their development of character and goodness.  and while it's important, it's over rated for the child well into adolescence.  An older child needs to have a safe haven, I think to express their ills into without mom coming unglued...and let me tell you, I have wanted to become unglued! I think my children are testing my love and willingness to accept them, love them, guide them without fear of revenge or anger.  I know this may seem like an odd description when children are to be obedient and respectful, but the safety they sometimes NEED to feel when their world is upside down and they need to just be "ill" is more important than that they stuff up their feelings for the behaviors that while wonderful will create more stress and strain...Oh I'm definitely not advocating a raging child and accepting this as good in the home! Not in the least, but if a child needs to express, if I can listen even when it's NOT in a way I would desire, and somehow detatch myself from the pain and anger welling up inside myself, for "how dare he or she treat ME~wonderful mother that I am, in such a manner as. _ _ _ _" to a place of calmness and hearing my child and really KNOWING and SEEING what is going on.

One such "face off" has recently occurred.  I am not sure I passed this "test," but I held my cool and ground...stayed firm and loving and waited until a cooler head on both our parts was present in order to tackle the issues.

Maybe you aren't struggling like this at your house.  Sometimes totalitarianism just breeds more rebellion~what is it a kid "wants" anyway when they act up? Love and attention! Not punishment, guilt and shame for their feelings and actions.

I am praying that God will show me how to lovingly, but firmly "finish nesting" my two hatchlings so they can eventually fly with wings of the eagle and with the spirit represented by the dove!  By using patience, love, understanding, faith, peace, hope, joy, goodness, meakness, temperance, bond, family ties...these are working us towards this goal for my family along with a strong sense of our faith in our Heavenly Father who guides our hearts and minds.

I wanted to share just in case you too are in the trenches with your child~here's to true victory where EVERYBODY wins!
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Monday, September 28, 2009

Three Things Every Parent Should Teach


Simple things, but essential.

1. Child, you are loved.  When you teach your child he is loved, you show it, and he will know. 

2. Child, God is God.  Values are indispensable in this world, and an understanding of Who God is will carry a person further than most anything, including money and fame.

3.  Child, you have choices.  None of us are without some sort of choice in our lives, and giving our child the knowledge that he will be making decisions in life that can and will effect him for the rest of his life and eternity will lay upon him the needed responsibility and duty to make wise decisions.

Thanks for stopping by.  I'm a homeschool mom with two teens who prayerfully seeks to share these with them.  May you be blessed with your child...
 AND FOR FUN~
1. Your Mama 'ain't' a maid!
2. Zip your jeans before they are washed!
3. Soap and water are cheap!
blessings,



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